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I have a weird and goofy thing I want you to do this week.  It’s a nutrition assignment, but that’s not the weird part.  The goofy part is what I actually want you diet and nutrition assignment to lose weightto do within the diet assignment.

Ready?

I want you to talk to your food – whether it responds is a matter for you and your therapist.

In all seriousness (and don’t be offended if you really do see your therapist because your food talks to you), I do want you to talk to the food you eat and the drinks you drink for the remainder of the week.

I want you to ask your food, “If I eat you, how will you make me feel?”

I want you to ask your drinks, “If I drink you, how will I feel in about 15 minutes?”

Then I want you to tell the Little White Rabbit to go away because you’re not going to Wonderland.

I’m not very far into this diet assignment and I’m already way off base, so let’s bring it back.

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It’s Saturday and you know what that means?whiskey doesn't help with your weight loss

Oh, you don’t?  Well in my house it means…it’s Saturday.

I know I’m a boring dude, but we have a 5-year old and 10-month old and it’s January in Nebraska.  Not exactly conducive to living an exciting life!

I kid.  I love my life and wouldn’t change it for anything and the fact that Nolan is getting closer to walking everyday scares the bejesus out of me because I know I’ll have to somehow make eyes grow all around my head, or do some crazy flexibility work on my neck to be able to turn it 360 degrees like an owl to keep an eye on that little daredevil.

At least he has his sister to keep an eye on him…although that could be worse!

Anywho, I received some great emails over the last couple weeks (most specifically about weight loss) and I want to share a couple of them with you today in the form of a little Q&A.

So without further ado, let’s get this Weight Loss Q&A party started!

1.  “You mentioned in a post earlier this week you don’t like commercial snack or protein bars, but never said why.  So why don’t you like ‘em smarty pants?  I need to lose weight and rely heavily on the things.” – Jane

The main reason I don’t like most snack or protein bars is because many are glorified candy bars and don’t do much in the way of weight loss.

They use sub-standard ingredients, pass it off as “healthy” and lead you to believe you can lose weight by snacking on the thing 1 or 2 times per day.

About 5 years ago, the most popular protein bar on the market, that you could purchase everywhere from gas stations to health clubs to giant warehouse stores, boasted that it tasted like a Snickers bar and it really, truthfully did taste like a candy bar and people loved it.

It flew off the shelf like crazy because it tasted so good and it was assumed to be healthy because it was a “protein bar.”

You know what?  A company that independently tests supplements ran a test and found the reason it tasted so good was because it really was a candy bar.  They flat out lied on the label about how much protein and sugar were in the bar.

It tasted like a Snickers bar because it was virtually the same thing, except it was more expensive and had MORE calories.

Holy cow!!

It’s incredibly difficult to make a good tasting, and truly healthy, snack bar or protein bar and produce it on a huge level.  Corners usually need to be cut, or if they’re not, and it truly is a decent bar, it’s usually a bit on the expensive side, but because the weight loss market is so HUGE, unscrupulous business people get involved.

Having said that, I do enjoy a Cliff bar from time-to-time and they seem to be one of the good guys.

So you can find good snack bars, but you have to pay attention – NEVER trust the front label, always flip it around and read the ingredients and calorie breakdown and do a bit of research, otherwise you’ll find yourself eating a glorified candy bar and wondering why you’re gaining weight rather than losing.

2.  “I’ve tried diets in the past and had mixed results with my weight loss (lots of yo-yo).  Why is it that every New Year’s I make resolutions, try a diet or workout program and maybe see some results, but then fall into the same rut?  Why can’t I make anything stick?” – Jennifer 

I don’t know why.  If I knew the answer to that I’d be in the fitness/ weight loss business…

…Oh yeah!  I am!  Woo-hoo!

The answer varies from person-to-person and can be as simple as choosing programs that are set-up to make you fail.  I seriously think there are programs out there that are designed to make you fail so that they can turn around and try to sell you something “new” 6 or 12 months down the road.  It’s truly all about marketing and it drives me crazy.take action to lose weight NOW

For instance, right now on the radio I am hearing commercials for the “most effective fat burner,” and it makes me crazy because just a few months ago this same company advertised essentially the same thing, but with a different “twist.”

So that could be one reason, but I knew the person who sent this email and the answer she needed wasn’t determined by whiz-bang supplements, rather it was more mental and most who struggle to find a “happy zone” with weight loss fall into this category and the answer is two-fold.

One, there’s not a strong enough “reason why,” and their reason for eating is wrong.

If you truly want to make a change and lose weight, you have to find an incredibly strong “Reason Why” and it can’t be wimpy.

It can’t be something like “I want to lose 10 pounds in a month” because that won’t cut it.  If you’re trying to make a positive change that lasts a lifetime, a change that won’t leave you in the same position in the next 6 months or a year, you have to dig down deep and find out what makes you tick…

…This “Reason Why” has to be strong.

For instance, the person who wrote that email loves her kids more than anything and has a bad family history of heart ailments and cancer and she needs to lose about 30 pounds – intelligently – otherwise she may fall prey to the same issues.

That is her Reason Why, but for most, including her, the health issues aren’t strong enough because they’re not really visible – especially if there’s no issue right now.  So I told her that her kids had to be her Reason Why and I also knew she loved to hang by the pool in the summer, so I used the next 4 months as her guide.

I told her to focus on her kids as her big Reason Why (being a good role model and having the energy to keep up), but also to think about fitting into a smaller swimsuit so she doesn’t feel self-conscious at the pool.

Is that vain?  Sure, but who cares.  It’s important to HER, and will help her lose weight, and it’s important to a lot of us and there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little vanity, although it can NOT be the BIG Reason Why because it usually leads to unhealthy decisions and habits that won’t “stick.

I told her to be active with her kids – get out and run around with them, play games, play sports AND to be a positive eating role model so her kids won’t struggle as they age with health issues or weight concerns.

As parents, it’s our responsibility to be the lead role models when it comes to eating meals and snack and it’s not enough to tell our kids to “eat this…” while we eat and drink crap.

They follow our lead and they’re smart enough to realize that they don’t have to do something YOU won’t do yourself.

Obviously that’s just the beginning of my answer to her and I had some other things to share as well, including workouts and nutrition information, but that’s a secret (unless you’re a member of my super-secret club!).

3.  “Any workouts to share with me workout dude?” – Sam 

Yes, the workout dude does have some workout stuff.  I’m still tinkering with this whole Fusion Conditioning thing and in case you missed it, you should really check out the workout video I gave you a couple weeks ago.

To check it out, head to –> Fusion Conditioning Fat Loss Workout Video

Click here –> weight loss for another workout video…and it’s a 10-minute workout video (of course!!).

It’s an awesome example of what I’ve been working on lately and it’s incredibly effective.  It’s bananas.

That’s all I have for you today.  I’ll be back next week with more good stuff to help with your weight loss goals and workout programs!

Same Bat-Time…Same Bat-Channel!

Later,

P.S. – don’t hesitate to ask if you have any questions.  I’m here to help and will do whatever I can to help you reach your goals!

Don’t Freak Out About Eating This Holiday Season

Sunday, December 18th, 2011

Tis the season for joy, food, bad weather and flabbiness.

You know what else?  It’s the season for every fitness guru and their mama to give you lists for losing weight because the average person gains some obscene amount over the course of 4 weeks.

You know the drill because you see it every year.

This year is going to be different.  This year I’m telling you NOT to worry about it.

Seriously.  Don’t sweat the guilt of eating, drinking and being merry this gluttonous season.

Why?  Because it’s only a few weeks and those numbers the “experts” tell you the average person gains aren’t totally true.  It’s like that old game you played as a kid where you tell your neighbor a secret, then they tell their neighbor the same secret and after 10 kids you compare what you said versus what was passed along. Read More→

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Are you a goal setter?

I’m a huge goal setter. I set goals like crazy. I loves me some goals.

Big goals, small goals, it doesn’t matter. If it’s worth achieving, I make it a goal.

I map that crap out and yearn to achieve those goals.

Why am I such a believer in goal setting? Because experts told me to be a believer in goal setting and I loves me some gurus.

The problem is that I tend to spin my wheels and I know that happens with many, many others as well.

I get what they’re saying and understand the benefit of goal setting and the benefit of setting BIG goals.

If you have low expectations, and small goals, you won’t stretch and take risk. You’ll accomplish little.

Set a goal to earn a penny, and you’ll probably only earn that penny.

Speaking in terms of Goals For Weight Loss, if you set a goal to lose 5 pounds when you need to lose 50… you’ll only lose 5 pounds.

There’s also a problem with setting large goals and having big expectations and that is the spinning of wheels (like me) or thoughts of failure if you don’t accomplish them, or if you don’t see yourself on your way to accomplishing them. Read More→

Where Do You Put Your Mental Energies?

Thursday, October 20th, 2011

Howdy!

When it comes to getting lean and fit, I have a basic belief – focus on taking positive steps that create good habits rather than attempting to remove negative habits.

That may sound overly simple, or bring up thoughts of “No kidding dude (please don’t call me ‘bro’)…I knew that!” but stick with me here and let me explain.

Let’s assume you want to lose weight.

Let’s also assume you want your physique to look better – losing weight and having a better looking body are often NOT the same and require different sets of action steps.

Let’s also assume you didn’t gain this weight by eating well and being active and that the weight didn’t jump on board the belly train last week.

Is it safe to assume all those things?

Super-duper. Read More→

Simple Weight Loss Solutions

Wednesday, September 14th, 2011

Hey!

I hope your day is going awesome.  We’re going to dive into the mental woo-woo stuff for a minute…

I want to present you with a situation that may sound pretty familiar.

Simple Weight Loss Solutions …that aren’t necessarily diet or workout related.

You’re fed up with the way you look and want to make a change.  You hate the way your clothes fit, your lack of energy, and you want to be better.

Maybe you’ve figured out what your next move is and you’re excited and ready, but your brain keeps going back to the Negatives.

It keeps pushing you back to the bad feelings – how bad you look in your clothes, how your lack of energy makes it difficult to focus on your workouts, etc.

Sound familiar?

When we have a problem, whether it be weight loss, or whatever, we tend to put all of our focus on the problem (Negative) and not the Solution (positive).

Don’t be “problem oriented,” instead focus on Solutions.

In the situation I presented earlier, the person should have focused on the addition of the good stuff and how good it made him/her feel, not the Negative of the current situation because the current situation is being changed every day and is not permanent …you’re making a positive change. Read More→

The Fit Dad’s Daily Diet

Thursday, September 8th, 2011

“Whatcha’ eating, Ed?”

“Dude…what’s your diet?”

“Oh, you don’t need to eat healthy, look at you!”

Those are just a few of the questions/statements I get on a regular occurrence pertaining to what I stuff my face with.

The third one I  got yesterday when I was going through the checkout at Target.  I had a shirt on with my business logo/website address and was buying a package of Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups (and other stuff… I wasn’t only buying Peanut Butter Cups).  The lady asked about my business and I said, “Don’t judge my knowledge based on the fact I’m buying junk food.” To which she replied “Oh look at you…. you can eat whatever you want in your diet and still stay fit and trim.”

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Don't be a stress eater!

Nope…I can’t.  I’m a stressed out 32-year-old dad and business owner and if I eat junk, it shows and it shows quicker than I’d like.

I used to be able to eat whatever I wanted  in my diet and would proclaim it proudly, but those days are long gone and most fit folks I know can’t eat “whatever they want” for long and stay fit.

And I have to insert this – if you are one of those genetic freaks who can do so, even past your early twenties, I don’t like you.  I’m kidding…sort of.

Anyway, back to the point I was trying to make.

When people aren’t assuming I eat anything I want, the next question they ask is, “What do you eat?” and I’m going to share my plan with you.

I’m also going to be very honest with you about my diet and eating habits.

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Before we go any further, here’s 3 easy diet tips (hint…click ‘diet’ :) ).

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For the better part of the last 8-9 months I ate pretty poorly.  I wasn’t a fatty boombalatty, but I ate poorly compared to normal.

I got into a habit of eating junk on a regular basis and neglected my normal healthy eating habits.

I could give you all sorts of excuses/reasons for this including business-related stress, having a new baby stress, etc. but truth be told, they’re all excuses.  I know better and shouldn’t have let myself slip up.

I’m not anymore and the extra weight I gained in that time (about 10-12 pounds) has quickly fallen away and I’m getting leaner than I was before.

Always cool!

Here’s my IDEAL nutrition day – the way I typically plan my days to be in a perfect world.  I say “ideal” because this type of day doesn’t always happen.  Some days I don’t get a snack and eat too much/too fast at lunch.  Some days Andrea and I are stressed and go out to eat for dinner – which usually leads to more stress with a 4-year old and 6-month old!  Ideal doesn’t happen all the time, but it happens most days, which is the name of the game.

Breakfast:
My alarm goes off at 4:50AM and I like to be at the studio by about 5:20, which doesn’t leave much time for a typical breakfast, which is cool with me because I don’t like the typical breakfast.  I love me some smoothies, so that’s what I have.

Every morning I make a homemade smoothie and drink it on my way to the studio  (my commute is 7 minutes…not much traffic at that time!).

This morning I had a heaping serving of blueberries, pineapple chunks, protein powder, ground flax seed, and a “green” juice.  I also threw a serving of probiotic powder in there.  If you’re not getting probiotics, you most definitely should be because they’re too valuable to be skipping.  Don’t just rely on Jamie Lee Curtis and her fancy yogurt either – get a supplement, drink some Kefir, eat fermented foods.

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great "diet" lunch!

We have a nice “Wand” hand blender that works quite well for the smoothies.  If you’re going to buy one, don’t go cheap.  We use it at least twice per day and that’s a lot of use for a kitchen appliance.  You don’t have to break the bank, just don’t get the $20 one.

Lunch:

Ideally, I have a salad for lunch.  I’ve paid attention to how I feel after eating several different types of lunch and salads always make me feel the best and don’t let me slip into an afternoon coma.   Remember, I’ve been going hard, working with clients, since around 5:30-40am and by lunch time I’ve put in a full day, so it’s natural to feel a let down after lunch, but salads keep my energy levels up.

A typical salad for me is a heaping bowl of a mixture of romaine lettuce and spinach leaves (more spinach than romaine), chopped broccoli, cashews/slivered almonds, sunflower seeds, feta cheese, dried cherries/cranberries and some type of vinaigrette dressing.

Sometimes I’ll eat a cookie or 2 as dessert (only if Andrea buys them…I’m not good if that stuff is in the house!), but my rule is that it has to be at least 10 minutes AFTER eating the salad.  If, after those 10 minutes, my brain tells me I’m satisfied, I don’t eat ‘em.  If there’s a little extra room, I’ll eat ‘em.

Dinner:

I hate cooking and I really hate grocery shopping.

Luckily I have the bestest wife in the whole wide world so I don’t have to cook – even though she reminds me that she thinks a man who cooks is sexy, but I always tell her I have plenty of other sexy features ;)

We’re on the same wavelength when it comes to our diet, so she cooks up something healthy.

For instance, last night we had pesto chicken on a bed of spinach leaves and a side of acorn squash.

It tasted awesome.

Tonight we had a pasta dish with plenty of garden fresh veggies and some turkey sausage.

My snacks are either homemade trail mix and fruit, or a homemade protein bar and fruit.

The trail mix is nothing special.  It’s just cashews, almonds, raisins and a small bag of M&M’s thrown into a big Tupperware dish that stays in my office.

The protein bars are something Andrea whips up and taste AWESOME!

The fruit is either an apple or pear always.  It must be easy to transport and those 2 things are easy to transport.

There you have it.  That’s what I’m eating!

One thing I always try to focus on is making sure I get at least 4-5 servings of fruit per day and 3-4 servings of vegetables.  (Here are some other easy diet foods)

If I do that, then all is well in my diet world.  My energy levels stay elevated, my mood stays chipper and I never, I mean NEVER get sick…ever…even though I work with people all stinkin’ day and am in close proximity with their germs and what not, I never get sick.

When I stick to this way of eating, I’m on top of the world and maintain a weight of about 175-180 pounds and a 30-31 inch waist.

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I also splurge a bit.  I love me some cookies and vodka.  Not at the same time.  I don’t have a freaky drink recipe consisting of snicker doodles and Abolut (although that does sound good!), but those are 2 of my indulgences and I feel fine.

I know that if I wanted to get a six pack quickly, all I’d have to do is cut out the booze (which isn’t much…I’m not a lush), get rid of the mini-Rewards, kick up the intensity a notch and that would get me there.

This way of eating is simple and easy, not only for me, but for most folks.  There’s nothing freaky about it.  No fad diets, no cutting out entire food groups (although I eat VERY little bread because I don’t really like it and it makes me flemmy) and no craziness.

What I told you is a typical day in the diet/nutrition life of The Fit Dad and I hope you can glean some helpful diet tips and better your eating lifestyle.

Have an awesome day!

Ed

P.S. – It took a little trial and error to figure out exactly how my body “likes” to eat.  I’m a big believer in creating healthy habits, rather than trying to remove bad ones.  Create the good and the bad goes away on its own.  I did this with my “assignment” mentality.  To learn more about what the heck that is, check out my Fat Loss To Go program (which is also loaded with 10-minute fat loss workouts).  Click here to check it out.

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Don’t Make This Bad, Bad Mistake…

Saturday, June 18th, 2011

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Given that today is Saturday, I think it’s quite poignant to write about this today…

I’m a big fan of cheating/rewarding.

I actually like to use the word “reward” more than cheating because a reward is a positive behavior, where cheating is not.

A reward is a benefit for having done awesome.

Cheating gets you kicked out of school and fired from your job.

Sorry for the side tangent…

What was I going to say?

Oh yeah.  I am a big fan of rewarding, but it must be used wisely.

Rewarding when used properly is a powerful thing.

Rewarding when used improperly is a stupid thing.

Most of us, if we decide to use the “reward” route when trying to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle, tend to use those rewards on the weekends.

Life is set up for us to do so.  We go on date nights on the weekend, if we work a jobby-job, we usually don’t have to work on the weekends, parties are held on weekends, you’re forced to hang out with people you don’t like on the weekends, etc.

That’s all well and good, but there can be a problem with using weekends as your reward time.

There are typically 12 Friday/Saturday/Sunday combinations in a given month (very difficult math on my part!).

That’s roughly ½ of every month that can be devoted to the “reward” lifestyle.

That is a recipe for disaster.

I know what you may be thinking, “But Ed. I swear I don’t eat that bad on weekends…stop being such a jerk.”

First, don’t call me names.  It hurts my feelings.

Second, are you sure you don’t eat that bad on weekends?

Another aspect of weekends is that we get out of our normal routine.  We live for routine.  You may not like hearing that, but it’s true.  Routines keep us on track.

What happens when our routine is thrown out of whack?

All common sense goes out the window.

We splurge while dining out.

We eat bad snacks.

We drink booze.

We skip breakfast, or eat a bad one – I love my Donut Sundays!

All I’m trying to say is be careful if you reward yourself, and be especially careful if you reward yourself on the weekends.

It is very easy to let that mentality get out of hand and turn a perfectly good and healthy habit into a habit that will destroy your goals.

You can either split your rewards up or spread them across the weekend.

For instance, maybe have a small dessert after dinner Friday, a couple drinks while playing golf on Saturday and a small “fun” breakfast on Sunday.

If the numbers are kept in check, and you’re strict the rest of the time, that is a perfectly fine way to reward yourself and still lose weight.

You could also devote an entire day to your reward.

Go out for breakfast with the family or friends and eat some pancakes (not those healthy protein pancakes either!) or have a scone.

Have a burger and fries for lunch and a piece of cheesecake after dinner that night.

The key with both of those is not to go crazy.

Always remember your goals.

Always remember why you made the decision to improve your lifestyle (weight loss, health, etc.).

Keep those thoughts and goals in the front of your mind at all times and listen to the little angel on your shoulder while kicking the devil on the other shoulder to the curb.

Remember that the weekend makes up nearly ½ of the month and can either make or break your goals – and how long you keep your results once achieved.

Talk soon!

Ed

P.S. – The latest issue of  Fit Parent Force Monthly is finished and ready for your reading/working pleasure!  The big article this month is on the “stress-hormone” cortisol and the workouts are called “Arms Attack.”  Good times to be had by all!

If you’re a client, head to –> http://fitparentforce.com/fpf-monthly-june-2011/ to get your hands on this month’s issue.

If you’re not a member of FPF Monthly head to –> http://thefitdadsays.com/fit-parent-force-monthly/ to become a member today!